Friday, September 11, 2015

Moving Houses

by Barbara Mulloy-Robbins




It’s been said that moving houses ranks in the top three most stressful events in a person’s life. Moving houses also has a way of temporarily changing your priorities in order to accommodate the many tasks on a moving check list. Which is probably why I haven’t shared a post on this blog for some time!

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 Oh NO, not another box!!!!!



While I have been tackling what seems to be a never ending “To Do” list as I pack up one home and refurbish another, it occurred to me that no matter what place we hold in society, when we have to move, we all go through the same thoughts and emotions amidst the chaos of boxes and tasks. We are saying so long to the old place and preparing a new one for what’s to come: a fresh start, a change of view (in my case, a lake) and hopefully some wonderful new neighbors!

Keep calm and carry on!


Moving Resources...




Thursday, January 1, 2015

ADHD Headlines



by admin staff

NBC Nightly News reports on the differences between ADHD symptoms found in girls and those found in boys, and how these differences can go unnoticed. Click here to watch the video

Healthline.com discusses alternative and complementary medicine as new treatment options for adults and children with ADHD...link to post

Lifehacker.com posted a resourceful article covering special accommodations available to college students with ADHD that will assist them during their studies and exams...link to post

Dr. William Dodson at Additude Magazine asks "Is it Bipolar Disorder or ADHD?" Symptoms of the two disorders are often confused...link to post


...Happy New Year!

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Radio Interview with Barbara Mulloy-Robbins

by admin staff

Dec. 15th, 2014...Mike Shikman of WSVA AM 550 News/Talk Radio (Harrisonburg, VA) interviewed Barbara about her book, An Uphill Struggle, From ADHD to Chemical ADDiction a Mother's Story.

Barbara shared details about her story and experiences as a young mother dealing with and trying to understand ADD/ADHD behavior in her sons, long before the condition was recognized as a legitimate brain disorder by health professionals and then the media. She also described what motivated her to write the book as she came to terms with the link between ADHD and Chemical ADDiction as it played out in the life and deaths of her sons.

Friday, December 12, 2014

Let Go and Let God

From beautifulwords.net: Link

by Barbara Mulloy Robbins



These days, if we look around at the people in our lives, it’s hard to find one person not embroiled in troubled times. It seems the challenge of navigating stress, drama and chaos has become the norm for more people than ever before. Couple all that with mental illness issues and you have a recipe for disaster.

Coping with a loved one embattled with mental health issues can be one of the most disheartening things to deal with for family members managing the role of caregiver. Mainly because most of us are not trained to handle the intricacies of disorders of the mind. Often, we are left on our own to care for our loved one thanks to the lack of attention and funding from local and national government. It doesn’t take long for the inevitable feelings of helplessness to wash over us.

I have been there, as so many others have. Who takes care of the caregiver? In most cases, caregivers must remember to take care of themselves because, sadly, no one else is going to do it for them. But, there has to come a point where something has to give inside you. Something has to occur within ourselves that gives us the strength to literally Let Go and Let God.

This blog’s tag line is “cry, love and live.” Consider effective coping strategies and enjoy moments of humor despite the challenges thrown your way. It’s okay to experience joy in the midst of sorrow. Do not feel guilty. In Chapter 21 of my book, I refer to the words of Don Hackett (from a Compassionate Friend’s monthly newsletter) titled The Promise of Spring…

As winter yields to spring, the land seems to throb with life. The day is longer and filled with renewed vitality. It is as if it’s cold hand has loosened its bitter grip and the earth is reborn. It is this quality of resurrection that seems so bitter. For I struggle in the darkness of loss, all around us is the vigorous rush of life breaking forth in colors and song. But our own children do not come forth. Yet, in spring’s unfolding, its return affirms the continuity of life.

We cannot allow ourselves to stay trapped. As much as our current situations have us cornered, we must teach ourselves to embrace again like a coming spring.

“I love people. I love my family, my children, but inside myself is a place where I live all alone and that’s where you renew your springs that never dry. Pearl S. Buck from Chapter 8: Self Discovery of An Uphill Struggle.

It will take both courage and strength to arrive at the “Let Go and Let God” place. This doesn’t mean letting go of yourself. A very old, yet timeless newspaper column titled “Just for Today” written by Frank Crane for the Boston Globe can be very helpful with maintaining yourself on a daily basis. There are ten simple tips…as per Frank Crane…

Here are ten resolutions to make when you awake in the morning. They are Just for One Day. Think of them not as a life task but as a day’s work. These things will give you pleasure. Yet they require will power. You don’t need resolutions to do what is easy.

1. Just for Today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life-problem at once. I can do some things for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt I had to keep them up for a lifetime.

2. Just for Today, I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that “most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Happiness is from Within; it is not a matter of externals.

3. Just for Today, I will adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come, and fit myself to them.

4. Just for Today, I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, and nourish it, and not abuse it nor neglect it; so that it will be a perfect machine for my will.

5. Just for Today, I will try to strengthen my mind, I will study. I will learn something useful, I will not be a mental loafer all day. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration.

6. Just for Today, I will exercise my soul. In three ways, to wit:
(a) I will do somebody a good turn and not get found out. If anybody knows of it, it will not count.
(b) I will do at least two things I don’t want to do, as William James suggests just for exercise.
(c) I will not show any one that my feelings are hurt. They may be hurt, but today I will not show it.

7. Just for Today, I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as possible,  talk low,  act courteously, be liberal with flattery, criticize not one bit  nor find fault with anything, and not try to regulate nor improve anybody.

8. Just for Today, I will have a program. I will write down just what I expect to do every hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I’ll have it. It will save me from the two pests Hurry and Indecision.

9. Just for Today, I will have a quiet half hour, all by myself, and relax. During this half hour, some time, I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective to my life.

10. Just for Today, I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy what is beautiful, to love and to believe that those I love, love me.

(Copyright, 1921 by Frank Crane, link)


God Bless us all.

To Look Back

To look back
might mean never
to go on.

To see the pile of 
shattered glass
and broken days
of horror of
time that's lost.

To listen for 
the voices of sons
that ran once
like laughing brooks,

to hear the echo
of footfalls when
they walked into 
mustaches and manhood
before I turned.

If I should thumb
through photographs that
remind me how I lived
in the margins of my life,

I might never go on,
climbing Jacob's mystic ladder
into the night,
searching for a place
to rest in some perfect light.

I might stop.

And what then?

 
To Look Back by Senator William S. Cohen from his collection, A Baker’s Nickel